This is something that I’ve wondered about endlessly, but only just now had the amazing insight to ask actual waiters/waitresses (servers?). If you work in a relatively nice restaurant (not uber-high end, but one where people might not wear jeans, say), do you give less-preferential service to tables not drinking alcohol?
I’ve never worked in the food industry (by design), but I want to understand this better. Husband and I don’t drink. Not for religious reasons or anything like that. We just don’t. But we’re twenty-thirtysomethings and I know it’s expected of us. So I’ve noticed at some restaurants (not all) that after we both order Diet Cokes, we seem to get a lot less attention than some other tables. You know, we get… forgotten.
It doesn’t make me angry or anything (unless they leave us there for over an hour without coming back). But I can almost see it in their eyes when they realize this is going to be an NA table. Face falls…and the busser ends up doing most of the work for us. I almost always want dessert if we’re spending the money to go out, but about 50% of the time they try to give us the check without asking. Ok fine, I’ll admit it, I’m a dessert junkie and it upsets me if I have to give them back the check and ASK for a dessert menu.
I should add that we always leave a 20% or better tip (for whatever it’s worth on a bill without booze), which I know the waiter/waitress couldn’t possibly know beforehand, but still…
So servers, do you have some insight for me? Is it all in my head? What’s your opinion on non-drinking tables?